What every man should do before seducing a woman
Seducing a woman can be an art in itself. Some men do it with total ease, and others struggle big time. In this article I would like to tell you some very important advice about what you should do before going into action. If you have some trouble with seducing women, this will be a very important step and will make a big difference in your interactions with women.
A lot of dating advice out there focuses on external “seduction techniques”. That is, what you should say and how you should say it. They tell you to prepare an “opener”. They tell you to act as if you have other options. They tell you which body language you should have. should, should, should…stop “shoulding” yourself! What really matters is not what you say or do, but how YOU are. Confidence is key to seducing women, and this is the first aspect you should work on. There are great ways to boost your confidence with women. Click here to discover one of them.
What I’m about to tell you here is almost the opposite. It is also the essence of seduction. You see all the techniques above require you to THINK. They require you to be in your head. But let me tell you a secret that you should know about successfully seducing a woman: the more you are in your head (that is, the more you think), the smaller your chances of success are! Ok, I’m not saying you should just do nothing and things will happen. But allow me to show you a completely different angle to seduction.
First there are a few things you should know about women:
- They are people. Thinking of a woman as some kind of an object to “practice on” or as a “target” will bring you nothing but misery.
- They are different from us. In the sense that they have different ways of being attracted to the opposite sex.
- Women are VERY intuitive. The can FEEL the intentions of a guy from miles away. That means that if you are preparing a “script” to seduce her she will know it right away. Sure in a crowded loud club this might be different, but in general their feelings are quite accurate.
So what should you do instead when seducing a woman? Here are few pointers and practices you can try.
Seducing a woman tip 1
First of all, you need to practice being PRESENT. That is, practice not being distracted by your loud voice in your head. This is something you should do every day. This can be achieved through, for example, meditation. It’s like a muscle that you build. Once you are more present you will be guided by your intuition rather than your loud thoughts. Intuition is a feeling, sometimes a very faint little voice in your head that is whispering your suggestion about your further steps. When you learn how to silence your mind and follow your intuition you will know EXACTLY what to say and do when seducing a woman!
When you approach, talk and escalate your intuition will suggest you: “now touch her on her elbow” or “now say [this or that]” or anything that you need to do at that time. And you will be just following its guidance like a canoe on a river floating down stream…all the way into bed and even further (whatever you choose at that point).
Seducing a woman tip 2
Secondly when you see a girl you want to seduce, before approaching her: set an intention. Just create a vision in your mind about what you want to happen in your interaction with this girl. Think of positive images of you two hooking up and having fun. In the beginning this might be a bit hard, if you haven’t done it before. But once you start practicing it a lot, it will start happening automatically.
What you will do by setting an intention is do direct your thought and feelings towards a positive outcome which means that you will influence HER thoughts. You will create a very high energy vibe in yourself. Vibes are contagious and she will immediately feel it.
So, as you have noticed, I didn’t tell you what do say to her or how to behave. I just said that you should condition your mind towards a positive outcome. Our mind is the most powerful instrument on this planet and believe it or not, we can influence what happens to us with our mind!
If you follow the tips in this article you will already be in a very favorable position when seducing a woman. What happens after you meet the girl is up to you and I guarantee that you will do MUCH better than when you wouldn’t follow this advice.
To your success!
Ivan Dyn
This post was written by
Ivan Dyn – who has written 46 posts on Masculine Freedom.
Ivan Dyn is a transformational life coach. His mission is to empower men to be their true authentic selves and to create deep connections with the women of their desires. Ivan is a trained EFT coach and an NLP practitioner. He is the creator of Masculine Freedom
